…abandon unrealizable fantasies for the actual, deep pleasures that “real life” can afford….real life consists in the things that make it worth living. The real challenge that confronts each man and woman, then, can never be that of finding perfect happiness; rather, it must be that of creating some form of possible happiness – achieving self-respect and the partial realization of one’s hopes and aspirations. In this life, no one can expect more. -Introduction to Edith Wharton’s The Age of Innocence by Cynthia Griffin Wolff
Unfortunately we American kids are largely taught to “never settle for less than perfect”… goes for partner, career, house, car, body, kids – all that. So screwed.